"While our world keeps hoping for peace through man’s solutions, we know the only source of lasting unity is Jesus Christ." Dr. Charles Stanley

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

When I say, "I am a Christian" Poem By Carol Wimmer

Love this poem...had to share with you!  There are many "Christians" our there, so just to clarify on the kind I am..all about Jesus, serving Him, loving others and NEVER coming off as though I'm better then anyone else. We are all sinners...I am saved by His grace and just striving to be a better me every day.

Poem

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I’m not shouting, “I’ve been saved!”
I’m whispering, “I get lost!
That’s why I chose this way”

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I don’t speak with human pride
I’m confessing that I stumble -
needing God to be my guide

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I’m not trying to be strong
I’m professing that I’m weak
and pray for strength to carry on

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I’m not bragging of success
I’m admitting that I’ve failed
and cannot ever pay the debt

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I don’t think I know it all
I submit to my confusion
asking humbly to be taught

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I’m not claiming to be perfect
My flaws are far too visible
but God believes I’m worth it

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I still feel the sting of pain
I have my share of heartache
which is why I seek His name

When I say, “I am a Christian”
I do not wish to judge
I have no authority
I only know I’m loved

Copyright 1988 Carol Wimmer

Friday, December 23, 2011

Letter from Jesus...

There are so many things I've wanted to write about but when I read this earlier today I knew it was a must to re-post on the blog and let it speak for itself :-) 

 
 
 Letter from Jesus about Christmas:
 
 "It has come to my attention that many of you are upset that folks are taking My name out of the season.
How I personally feel about this celebration can probably be most easily understood by those of you who have been blessed with children of your own. I don't care what you call the day. If you want to celebrate My birth, just GET ALONG AND LOVE ONE ANOTHER.

Now, having said that let Me go on. If it bothers you that the town in which you live doesn't allow a scene depicting My birth, then just get rid of a couple of Santas and snowmen and put in a small Nativity scene on your own front lawn. If all My followers did that there wouldn't be any need for such a scene on the town square because there would be many of them all around town.

Stop worrying about the fact that people are calling the tree a holiday tree, instead of a Christmas tree. It was I who made all trees. You can remember Me anytime you see any tree. Decorate a grape vine if you wish: I actually spoke of that one in a teaching, explaining who I am in relation to you and what each of our tasks were. If you have forgotten that one, look up John 15: 1 - 8.

If you want to give Me a present in remembrance of My birth here is my wish list. Choose something from it:

1. Instead of writing protest letters objecting to the way My birthday is being celebrated, write letters of love and hope to soldiers away from home. They are terribly afraid and lonely this time of year. I know, they tell Me all the time.

2. Visit someone in a nursing home. You don't have to know them personally. They just need to know that someone cares about them.

3. Instead of writing the President complaining about the wording on the cards his staff sent out this year, why don't you write and tell him that you'll be praying for him and his family this year. Then follow up... It will be nice hearing from you again.

4. Instead of giving your children a lot of gifts you can't afford and they don't need, spend time with them. Tell them the story of My birth, and why I came to live with you down here. Hold them in your arms and remind them that I love them.

5 Pick someone that has hurt you in the past and forgive him or her.

6. Did you know that someone in your town will attempt to take their own life this season because they feel so alone and hopeless? Since you don't know who that person is, try giving everyone you meet a warm smile; it could make the difference.

7. Instead of nit picking about what the retailer in your town calls the holiday, be patient with the people who work there. Give them a warm smile and a kind word.

8. If you really want to make a difference, support a missionary-- especially one who takes My love and Good News to those who have never heard My name.

9. Here's a good one. There are individuals and whole families in your town who not only will have no "Christmas" tree, but neither will they have any presents to give or receive. If you don't know them, buy some food and a few gifts and give them to the Salvation Army or some other charity which believes in Me and they will make the delivery for you.

10. Finally, if you want to make a statement about your belief in and loyalty to Me, then behave like a Christian. Don't do things in secret that you wouldn't do in My presence. Let people know by your actions that you are one of mine.

Don't forget; I am God and can take care of Myself. Just love Me and do what I have told you to do. I'll take care of all the rest. Check out the list above and get to work; time is short. I'll help you, but the ball is now in your court. And do have a most blessed Christmas with all those whom you love and remember"

I LOVE YOU,
JESUS

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

I'm back :-)

I apologize for not blogging in months!! Life has been great here in the Hastie household. We had a wonderful summer and fall filled with spending time with family, friends and creating memories that will last forever!

Sept came and was filled with some craziness. You know how that goes, orientations and open house for the pre-schooler, then getting the elementary school child back in the groove of homework, going to sleep early and getting ready on time. It is all fabulous but I feel like after September we could all use a vacation, lol. The end of October brought lots of excitement. My mom got married and it happened to occur on the only snow storm of the season so far! Definitely a wedding we will all never forget :-)

Here we are now, December and so excited for Christmas. My kids are having so much fun this year celebrating all aspects of this season. From decorating the tree, house, singing Christmas songs, playing with their Little People's Nativity set, and telling everyone about baby Jesus. My son was going around his room this morning looking for this one toy car that he just received for Christmas from family this past weekend. He said he wanted to give it to one of his friends at school. My reply was "Joshua, why are you doing that, you just got it." And shame on me b/c his response was "Mom this is what Christmas is all about. Giving to others and telling them about Jesus' birthday." His heart amazes me every single day. He might be one of the most energetic 6 year old's I know but his heart is so pure and his actions are so sweet. I think this time of year is amazing if we take the time to enjoy it and not run around all the time. Sometimes it takes a child to bring it all back into perspective for us. It is about loving others, spending time with people and celebrating the birth of Christ! I'm excited to bake a cake with my kids this weekend for Jesus' birthday. Every year when we wake up Christmas morning we come down to the kitchen, light the candles and sing Happy Birthday, Jesus! We have been doing it since Joshua was born and he looks forward to it every year. He gets that it's not about presents (although, don't get me wrong he loves receiving them) eating candy canes, or even Santa. Often we forget what it's really about. This past Sunday Joshua sang with some of the children in our church and every time I hear the words I get tears in my eyes. Here is part of it
"He made a way in a manger a way through the Son. Messiah the promised before time had begun. For God so loved this world, though He knew what love would cost. He made a way in a manger, to make a way to the cross.."
Such sacrifice and love! What a blessing that God made a way for you and me to the cross...I know I don't deserve the forgiveness and grace that I get every single day from Him. As I think about the hard times I have faced whether in the last year or in life in general nothing will ever compare to what Jesus went through on that cross for me!

So whatever you are doing or celebrating this season, take the time to look around you, enjoy the moment and if the one gift you wanted to buy hasn't been don't worry..time spent with the ones you love means more then any gift you could possibly buy in a store! If you don't think so just ask any 30 year old what they got for Christmas when they were 8...most likely won't remember but they will remember if Mommy or Daddy (or whoever was their guardian) was spending time with them while they were growing up!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!


Love and prayers,
Darea

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Jealousy...A reality we all deal with in one way or another

"Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point - that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. There is only one alternative - self-value. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. You will always think it's a mistake or luck. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security. Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them." ~Jennifer James

It always surprises me how people assume things or judge you when they aren't even your friend. If people looked within themselves then maybe they could stop making assumptions about other people's lives. Sad really...if all they want to do is talk (without having an ounce of factual information) then I actually feel sorry for them! Once again..all you can do is pray for people like that.
This quote explains a lot about what I was going to talk about so I figured I'd just leave it at that! Again, so glad the only approval in life I need is from my Heavenly Father :-)



Love and Prayers,
Darea

Friday, May 13, 2011

Not a competition..

Almost six years ago I began a journey no one could have prepared me for...Being a mom! A wonderful but hard job that I would never give up! God has blessed me with two wonderful children who right now are 2 1/2 and almost 6. Not the easiest of ages but I really am enjoying watching them grow and explore life. I have to say though I would not be the mom I am without all of my other mommy friends out there to turn to. Not just the moms who are my age..mom's that I turn to of all ages who either have little ones themselves right now or those who have raised them and they are now living on their own.

What I love about my friends is that we all love and are there for each other no matter what. Through the smiles and the tears b/c lets face it parenting is not just all about the joy. We might not all parent the same or even live life the same but we all have our kids best interest at heart. I have friends who were able to breastfeed and did so till they were comfortable, I have friends who could not or were not comfortable. I have some friends that let their children "cry it out" and others who chose not to. I have friends who put their kids in nursery school starting at 2 1/2 and I have others that waited till a year before Kindergarten and friends that home-school. Guess what, NO ONE has all the answers and no one does everything the same way. We are our OWN child's parent and as long as you are comfortable doing what you do it is not up to anyone else to make us feel guilty or as though our parenting style is wrong. If you want to put your child in time out or take away toys as a form of discipline then guess what, you do what works for your child. None of us are made a like so what makes us think our children would be. I have two kids, a boy and a girl and they couldn't be more different. They have very strong personalities but they respond to discipline differently. My daughter understands time out while my son has to get something he loves taken away. This is just what works for us. I only answer to God, not anyone else.

I'm thankful for the other mommy's/friends in my life that I correspond with and get wisdom from. There are many of you and you know who you are ;-) We don't have to go through the tough moments alone. Only we understand "Mommy brain" or the exhaustion that comes from bringing home a newborn, or dealing with the terrible 2's & 3's .

I also find that sometimes people think life is a competition between their children. One thing I will never announce is my child's grades. I will simply state they did well or that I'm happy with their report cards (if that) but publicly that is all you will get. If they do great they will know I'm proud and if they try their hardest and don't do so well then I will still let them know I'm proud. There is so much pressure on kids today that the last thing they need is for us to add to it. I'm not talking about encouraging our child to do their best, I'm talking about making them feel like they aren't good enough for not getting A's. I've seen all too well what can come of parents that do that. Even when I was in H.S. I saw what those pressures did to people around me. If you think about it, when was the last time someone asked you your GPA in high school or college (and I don't mean those who are applying to schools) No one cares that I got B's in high school. I tried my best and had a great time in high school/college. I have a lot of fond memories that can never be taken away. You cannot get those days back. My mom never once made me feel bad for bring home a B. If I needed extra help in a subject she made sure I got it but never ever made me feel bad for not getting straight A's. Thank you mom for that..means more then you ever realized!!

I simply write this b/c it doesn't matter if your child walks before mine, or if yours talks before mine, or if yours can hit a home run before mine. I will be excited for such accomplishments no matter who does it when. I LOVE the support I have all around me. I don't even have all my close friends in the same state as me but they are a quick, call, email or FB chat away. I love that I don't get judged but rather given great advice when I'm not sure what to do. Parenting is hard enough without others making it harder. No child is perfect..some people might think theirs are but the reality is, there is no such thing! I hope if you are a parent reading this that you have a great support around you and if not I'd love to get to know you more. Life is so short, enjoy the moments you have with your children and know there is someone out there if you need to talk :-)

Love and prayers to you all,
Darea ...One Blessed Mommy!

Friday, April 15, 2011

Two gifts in my life...


I have always loved the saying "We might not have it all together but together we have it all." This couldn't be more true about my sisters and I. The three of us are so different but yet are as close as can be. I will always remember riding on the bus to camp every summer together for over 8 years, enjoying our Saturday morning bagel time, swimming in our pool until it was dark outside..(as we got older, Joy kicking us out so she could hang with friends, lol), Jodi singing under my door when she knew she hurt my feelings..could never stay upset after that, and of course getting ourselves through some of the hard times we faced together as well. In life there are always highs and lows. However, it was in those hard times that the three of us grew the most and then became the closest.
As we grew up my mom always said to us "If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything, or it's not what you say but how you say it." That certainly came out a lot through our teenage years ;-) Despite how we were towards each other you knew that if someone else spoke badly about another we had each others back. You can say whatever you want about me but when you say something about one of them expect me not to keep my mouth quiet. I get so tired of people feeling it is their duty to judge other people, or think they know what they are talking about when they speak about anther persons, life, relationships, finances, parenting styles, jobs, vacation destinations, what one chooses to eat. I'm so not kidding either. Do people just have nothing else better going on in their own lives? I have come to the conclusion that if people want to talk about others in such ways it is because they are jealous or that they have issues of their own they are not secure with. So now my sisters and I just pray for those that "talk behind our backs." Its funny how they talk behind our backs but yet somehow we still know they are..not very good about keeping it behind our backs ;-) You can look us up and down and put whatever judgements you want on us..we know who we are and we know that we only answer to God!! If you are friends with any of us you know we are real, honest and what you see is what you get. There is no show here.
God definitely made us sisters but love made us friends. I love the two of them more then words can express. I know we have been through some tough times and even when we didn't realize it God had a plan all along. People often tell us, "For children who have come from divorced parents, you and your sisters really have adjusted well." I personally never accepted that stereotype that if your parents are divorced or you come from a "broken home", which don't get me started on that phrase, that we would end up with problems. Sure we each have our own insecurities or downfalls but guess what, who doesn't? We are all responsible for our own actions regardless of where we have come from. Divorced parents or not I think my sisters and I should be proud of who we are. More importantly we should be proud of our mom for raising us the way she did. None of us are perfect and we never pretend to be. In fact if you spend any amount of time with all of us you will definitely find us picking on or making fun of each other for those things..all in love of course. I know my sisters have my back and I hope they know I will ALWAYS have theirs.
God made no mistakes by putting the three of us in the family we are in. I wouldn't trade anything we have gone through to be in another family. We are all stronger, wiser and have more of an appreciation for each other b/c of what we have been through. God has been so good to us. I thank him every day for putting me in the middle of my very smart organized older sister and my very free spirited, sarcastic younger sister. I'd like to think I'm the balance of the two ;-) Love you both!!

Sunday, March 20, 2011

Project Experience....Reflection time.

"Project Experience, a guided walk-through exhibit showing the many issues our missionaries encounter on the field, as well as the ministries we support both globally and locally. It will provide a hands-on connection to our local and world-wide partnerships."

I have heard about Project Experience from some of our staff, volunteers and teens b/c it was set up at a Life conference last Summer for our Youth. I never imagined it was going to be what it was. As I started I was handed a passport, fake of course but the start of my journey through Project Experience. I remember so clearly the first area we came to. A bunch of 40lb water jugs set up on one end of the floor..as I looked around I saw pictures of little kids, I'm talking under 8 years old pulling, carrying, doing whatever they could to bring clean water back to their families. I was told by our tour guide to try lifting and walking with one. They were heavy and honestly I could not even imagine walking a 100 ft with it let alone miles. I could not fathom Joshua (my 5 year old) having to walk miles and miles to bring me back clean water. Forget going to school b/c such a task would take these kids all day. This is why 1 in 6 people do not have clean water. When I saw the glasses of water lined up with the 1 not clean my heart sank..then I looked over and saw the 1 of 6 baby bottles filled with dirty water and tears started to fill in my eyes. I never had to worry about not being able to give my kids food let alone clean water to drink. This is a daily struggle for people in Africa.

Then I moved on to the next room which had an 8x8 square on the ground with sand at the bottom. This was to show us the size of the houses people lived in. I was not prepared for the tears that came with this one. These people's houses are the size of my bed..MY BED! I just stood there thinking..how do they walk? where to they sleep,? how do 6 or more live in there? We have so much here and I find myself saying things on a daily basis that now make my stomach sick. We are so blessed..not only do we have our needs we even have our wants.

My next stop was a table filled with food that we in America typically eat in a given week..and you know that some of that even ends up in the trash. As I looked at the table and saw all the food we consume and then looked over to the little (and i mean little) bowl of rice these people get for one week. That deeply saddened me. We throw around the phrase, "I'm starving, or I'm famished." We do not even have a clue as to what that really means. Our stomachs begin to growl and we get up and get some food. They do not have that option. "It would only cost 195 billion dollars to end world hunger. 30 billion was spent on ice cream last year." Crazy and gives you a little more perspective. Of course it goes beyond one person giving up on that but the numbers don't lie and it has to start with us to help. 1 child dies every 5 SECONDS from starvation!! Just think of how many kids have died in just the time it has taken you to read to this point.

"11,000,000 die every year of preventable diseases. That = Haiti x 40" I saw a cot with all medical supplies to show me that although people think starvation is number one cause of death in Africa it not. It is in fact diarrhea. Something that here in the U.S. can be easily treated and you move on with your day. Something they are not able to do. Another thing we take for granted.

I would have to say that the next stop for me broke my heart more then words can express but I will try. This would be what goes in in Tailand..Our tour guide asked us (pretending we were parents) if she would promise we would never go hungry again, or that our kids would never have to work so hard would we be willing to give them over to them to help in their restaurants and such. They could work serving, cleaning floors, dishes ect..Of course they would say yes, after all parents only want the best for their kids..well then I walked through to what was really the truth behind that promise. Human trafficking!! They say they will be working at restaurants when in reality these young kids..not even teens, kids as young as 6 are being tricked and forced into sex trade industry. This broke my heart and disgusted me at the same time. I cannot even imagine the fear these little kids must feel. I looked over and saw this little cot with a little girls red shoes on the floor to give me an idea of the set up that goes on. I just kept thinking..its so not fair. My son is going to be 6 in June, thoughts of him having to go through this makes my stomach turn and my eyes fill with water. Or my little girl who would one day maybe follow...all too much for my mind and heart to comprehend. I can cry and feel for these people but I really have no idea what in fact they actually go through. Can you imagine the fear they must feel??

I then came into a room that looked like a typical bedroom here...had a bed, a desk with a computer set up ect. It was in this room that our tour guide gave me a fact I will never forget. Americans' addiction to pornography feeds the sex trade industry. I was appalled to find out the pornography industry was a 12 billion dollar a year industry. That is more money then the MLB, NHL,NFL bring in combined..salaries, ticket sales, everything that is made or paid out. Doesn't that just blow your mind?? Again with putting things in perspective. It is crazy. Our tour guide also pointed out that there are stores and companies here in the U.S. that support pornography and that when we purchase from them we support it. I am currently trying to gather a list of those stores and places and will post it when I have it done. I definitely do not want to shop anywhere that supports this in any way shape or form. I know this is an addiction but like any addiction I do not want to be someone feeding into it or helping others get to it.

After this we walked into a room with a big wooden cross laying on the floor with papers nailed into it..people who had previously taken the tour had left things they had burden for or issues with at the cross. I didn't want this journey to end b/c I was learning so much and my perspective on life has taken a different turn. After I wrote down on the paper what I wanted to leave with Jesus, because after all, He died for me and my sins, I prayed, nailed the paper to the cross and got up. As I looked forward (not back at that cross) I came to this spot where there were facts and pictures of everything we had previously seen or were taught about. We were given a few minutes to pray about all of it. I did not even have to move a lot, I had specific visuals of all I had just seen and the facts that were right in front of me. I knew that action needed to be taken and prayer was definitely the start to what I could do next.

Before entering our last area we saw a video of how Christian Missionary Alliance churches have been helping in providing support for the water wells in Africa. Not only was I able to see that I also saw visuals of other ways our church and other supporting churches have helped missionaries all over the world. The CMA also supports the ministry that teaches women to make scarves so that they can bring in some income to their home. They are also involved in the building of a trade school in Senegal to train the homeless boys and young men a trade. Through all this they teach them about Christ. Hope is given not only for their physical needs but for their spiritual needs as well. I was also able to see a model of one of the (many) homes our church has been involved in building in Ensenada, Mexico. Our church goes on at least one missions trip a year to this area of Mexico. My heart was tugged on with this. I came home that night and said to my husband..we need to pray but I really feel like Summer 2012 is our time to go on that weekly missions trip. This is definitely an action we can take in the direction of "doing something more."

Lastly, our tour ended in a room that had paper lined up on tables that we could write down anything we wanted, reflection, prayer, thoughts ect. I remember grabbing a red marker, looking down, writing "Please God, never let me forget the things I have heard and seen today. Keep my heart broken, show me ways that I can help and serve you more." You see all along my heart was sad and broken for the things these people did not have. One of the biggest things they do not have is hope. Now this is a NEED..they need to know their is hope that comes from knowing Jesus Christ. Knowing Jesus and giving them hope is showing them they will have eternity away from the pain they are facing here on earth.

Again, I do not think my writing can even give justice to this whole experience but hopefully for those who could not go it gave you a glimpse. Its not about what you wear, or the size house you have, the food you eat, the music you listen to, its about knowing Jesus Christ. I'm thankful that over 10 years ago I had an Aunt share with me that the heartache in life is not all there is.

With a heart forever changed,
Darea