"While our world keeps hoping for peace through man’s solutions, we know the only source of lasting unity is Jesus Christ." Dr. Charles Stanley

Friday, April 15, 2011

Two gifts in my life...


I have always loved the saying "We might not have it all together but together we have it all." This couldn't be more true about my sisters and I. The three of us are so different but yet are as close as can be. I will always remember riding on the bus to camp every summer together for over 8 years, enjoying our Saturday morning bagel time, swimming in our pool until it was dark outside..(as we got older, Joy kicking us out so she could hang with friends, lol), Jodi singing under my door when she knew she hurt my feelings..could never stay upset after that, and of course getting ourselves through some of the hard times we faced together as well. In life there are always highs and lows. However, it was in those hard times that the three of us grew the most and then became the closest.
As we grew up my mom always said to us "If you have nothing nice to say then don't say anything, or it's not what you say but how you say it." That certainly came out a lot through our teenage years ;-) Despite how we were towards each other you knew that if someone else spoke badly about another we had each others back. You can say whatever you want about me but when you say something about one of them expect me not to keep my mouth quiet. I get so tired of people feeling it is their duty to judge other people, or think they know what they are talking about when they speak about anther persons, life, relationships, finances, parenting styles, jobs, vacation destinations, what one chooses to eat. I'm so not kidding either. Do people just have nothing else better going on in their own lives? I have come to the conclusion that if people want to talk about others in such ways it is because they are jealous or that they have issues of their own they are not secure with. So now my sisters and I just pray for those that "talk behind our backs." Its funny how they talk behind our backs but yet somehow we still know they are..not very good about keeping it behind our backs ;-) You can look us up and down and put whatever judgements you want on us..we know who we are and we know that we only answer to God!! If you are friends with any of us you know we are real, honest and what you see is what you get. There is no show here.
God definitely made us sisters but love made us friends. I love the two of them more then words can express. I know we have been through some tough times and even when we didn't realize it God had a plan all along. People often tell us, "For children who have come from divorced parents, you and your sisters really have adjusted well." I personally never accepted that stereotype that if your parents are divorced or you come from a "broken home", which don't get me started on that phrase, that we would end up with problems. Sure we each have our own insecurities or downfalls but guess what, who doesn't? We are all responsible for our own actions regardless of where we have come from. Divorced parents or not I think my sisters and I should be proud of who we are. More importantly we should be proud of our mom for raising us the way she did. None of us are perfect and we never pretend to be. In fact if you spend any amount of time with all of us you will definitely find us picking on or making fun of each other for those things..all in love of course. I know my sisters have my back and I hope they know I will ALWAYS have theirs.
God made no mistakes by putting the three of us in the family we are in. I wouldn't trade anything we have gone through to be in another family. We are all stronger, wiser and have more of an appreciation for each other b/c of what we have been through. God has been so good to us. I thank him every day for putting me in the middle of my very smart organized older sister and my very free spirited, sarcastic younger sister. I'd like to think I'm the balance of the two ;-) Love you both!!

3 comments:

  1. This is such a SWEET post, Daria and what a beautiful picture of you wonderful sisters! My sisters and I are so different too, but yet we are all there for each other and get closer every year! Love your starting quote too! Looking forward to a sushi lunch soon with Joyful and hoping you can join us! :)

    Liesl :)

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  2. I am so sorry that it has taken me so long to comment on this Deeka. I guess this post means that you have forgiven me for purposely leaving you at school...I was so bad in HS and even worse in college. I don't know how you guys put up with me but that is what we do in our family. We love each other and stick by each other no matter what and like you said, I will always and forever have the backs of my mom and sisters. When I look back to all that we have been through I love knowing that no matter how bad it was, God was there all of the time holding our hands...how else would we have come out of everything the way we did! Every mother/daughter team should have the bond that we have. Yes, we are human (and women) and get on each others nerves and freak out every once and a while but we no matter what...WE LOVE each other. As for the people who judge and talk behind our backs...like you said, we just have to continue to pray for them. They have no clue what we have been through and shame on them for assuming that they do. I thank God so much for my best friends...my sisters! Love you Deeka!

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  3. so sweet! you are such a good writer! should we follow eachother? x

    http://lemonxmelon.blogspot.com/

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